I’ve been in many conversations where men said they would NEVER cry because it means you’re weak. I too used to hold the same belief, so I could somewhat understand the thought process. Now that I’m older and wiser I realize a man crying isn’t a sign of weakness, and it is actually healthy to cry than to bottle up years of strong emotions and feelings.
Time, Place, Situation
I believe there is a time and place for everything, so don’t hear me say a man should cry in every seemingly sensitive situation. Then that would be the other extreme which can also be unhealthy. I have or I have seen men that have cried during weddings, from losing a loved one, during the birth of a child, during certain movies, different injustices, and I could go on and on.
You are not and you don’t have to be superman because you are a human being. You were intentionally made in the image of God with emotions and feelings, so it’s okay to cry sometimes. If your best friend called you to tell you his wife passed away it’s okay to weep and mourn together. Romans 12:15 says “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep,” so we see a direct command to actually cry with those who cry. We see our own savior demonstrate this for us.
How shocking, humbling, unbelievable, amazing, and extraordinary is it to see the all powerful and almighty God cry. We should take a few moments to ponder the realness of Jesus weeping in public, and the hinting of Him weeping in private during prayer. I’ll be the first to say a man crying is not weakness, but rather great strength and humility can be found through the expressions of emotions that dance down our faces in the form of a salty liquid.
Yes, men should cry, and should not be ashamed to cry at certain times. Don’t let raging anger be the mark of what you think manhood should look like, but know that some of the toughest men you will ever meet cry at times. To top it all the strongest man to have ever walked this earth, YESHUA, cried, so know you will be in the greatest of company.
Grace and Peace,