I remember when I used to consistently study God’s Word and pray with my wife. Being together ten years now a lot has changed in that department. We just don't seek God together the way we used to, and I see how the richness of our relationship as husband and wife is slowly diminishing. Sure we pray together, attend church together, study the bible together, but what we do now is equivalent to a crumb as we used to eat the whole loaf.

The downward spiral from devotion to little or no devotion was a slow one for us. Through the “busyness” of getting married, completing degrees, having a kid, buying a house, making the house feel like a home, starting and growing a business, everyday situations, etc., we slowly started to let the cares of this world take the place of our true purpose of marriage which is to glorify God.

As I’m on the road to reprioritize my marriage I thought it would be helpful to share because I can’t be the only one that feels this way. After being encouraged by other brothers of the Faith I thought it necessary to do the same!

Here’s what I’m hoping to accomplish:

1.) God-Centered Marriage:

Ecclesiastes 12:13 "13 The end of the matter; all has been heard. Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man.”

2.) Christ-Exalting Marriage:

Ephesians 5:25-30 "25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body.”

3.) Better Intimacy with my Wife:

I want to know my wife on the deepest levels possible. I want to attend to her spiritual needs by pointing her consistently to the truths of God, attend to her emotional needs by being sensitive and engaging about her cares/concerns, attend to her physical needs by spending quality time together enjoying the union of two becoming one through God’s blessing, and attend to her mental needs by always actively listening and responding while engaged in conversation!

Leading your wife in devotional time is much needed, and is your duty as leader of your family. When you do this you are saying I’m devoted to leading you to God, devoted to displaying the Gospel of Jesus Christ, and devoted to leading your family well. I will be praying for each one of your marriages, and I plead with you to do the same for me and others you know.

Grace and Peace,

Dontrell G.