"Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7
In part 2 of this series we discussed how husbands should honor their wives as the weaker vessel, and immediately after Paul discusses how wives are coheirs with husbands. Yes, in most cases husbands are physically stronger than their wives, and God has given husbands the role of leader to protect our wives while respecting our wives. More importantly our wives are equally important when it comes to the blessings of this life and the life to come.
What is an heir? Simply put we generally hear of heirs to thrones or great inheritances. The first thing we must think about is being an heir is a present position given for a future inheritance. Secondly, we are not the ones building this inheritance, so our future possession is only made possible by someone else’s laboring. Lastly, husbands and wives are coheirs to jointly receive an inheritance from God, so that’s what makes wives equally important even as the weaker vessel!
Husbands we are to walk in a way that is honoring to God, is imitating of Christ, and is lead by the Holy Spirit in the way we treat our wives. Genesis 2:22-23 "22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made[a]into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said,“This at last is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man,” explains how wives are coheirs with husbands. We as husbands should biblically treat our wives the same way we would treat our own bodies because we are now one flesh.
Grace of Life
God through His unsurpassable wisdom has graciously given woman to man, and has made man and woman equally in His image. God pours out his blessings by grace to husband and wife even though we don’t deserve it. No matter how undeserving we think our spouses are of anything we may have to offer them we should be gracious towards them as God is to us. Share your life with your wife in a way she sees your love in action, never doubts your love for her, and in a way that you love her as Christ loves the Church.
Our wives long to be loved, and we have a direct command to love them and honor them to bring glory to God. Let’s be careful of the messages we may directly or indirectly send to our wives because our prayers could be disregarded by God for our disregard for our spouses. In the last part of this series I will open up about my own marriage and how I knew my prayers weren’t reaching God’s ears. I hope I can help you all avoid some of the pitfalls I brought upon myself.