I'm sure all of us to some degree have or will say these infamous words "till death do us part." I remember over seven years ago saying those words to my wife thinking to myself, "wow this is for real" because I have to cherish this woman until one of us part via death. Two of my best friends got to experience the reality of those words at the young age of 29, because one of them is not here with us today.
On February 27, 2015 William and Jamie Freeman were victims of a fatal DUI. Unfortunately, our time on this side of heaven with Jamie was ended. On that day we lost a god-fearing wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt, cousin, and friend. On that day my good friend William had to learn how to be a father and mother figure to their little girl while grieving the loss of his bride, and he ultimately fulfilled his role as a husband to Jamie by leading her faithfully to the grave.
William and Jamie's Last Anniversary Together
On November 11, 2015 William wrote this beautiful passage about Jamie:
"November 11th represents the day that Jamie Thornton Freeman was born into this world. However, before she was born into this world, she existed:
"Your eyes saw my unformed substance;
in your book were written, every one of them,
the days that were formed for me,
when as yet there was none of them." - Psalm 139:16 ESV
God set His love on you before the foundations of this world was made.
"even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will," - Ephesian 1:4-5 ESV
It was always God's plan for you to live in His loving presence Holy and blameless for Eternity. God was gracious enough to allow you to be with us as long as He did.
"And he made from one man every nation of mankind to live on all the face of the earth, having determined allotted periods and the boundaries of their dwelling place," - Acts 17:26 ESV
Where you lived, who you knew, who you talked to, who your friends were, your family, who you would marry(William Freeman), who you would give birth too (Melanie Freeman) and everyone you would encounter are the lives God wove together intricately with the purpose for something far greater than we could imagine.
The fact that you aren't here is sorrowful for us because we miss you! However, it is joyful because I know that you are with Christ, with a better understanding of God and our existence, and you are sinless. Also, I see the good that has come from your life and how God has used your life for the good of others.
I will always remember this day (until my brain fails...of course)! I will celebrate this day ultimately because of the life God made for you and purposed for you and that it was Glorifying to him to create you!
You are no longer here but:
“Has this world been so kind to you that you should leave with regret? There are better things ahead than any we leave behind.” ~ C.S. Lewis
Melanie and I Love You!"
William and Melanie Spending Quality Time Together!
Jamie's death allowed me to see how much I was taking my wife and marriage for granted which humbled me a great deal. In today's society wedding vows are held loosely, divorce seems to be encouraged/expected, and commitment as husband and wife is fleeting. Ultimately, our turning away from God transpire into our turning away from marriage and family units. God instituted the first family unit, so when we turn away from Him it becomes easier to justify turning away from His truths.
I did not start this blog because I think I’m the best husband or father, but because I long to be a better husband and father. I long to be a god-fearing husband and father that will follow the Lord as He leads my life, and I know many other men are in the same boat. Let us not think of ourselves higher than we ought to, but let’s make a commitment to love our wives “till death do us part” in the same way my brother William did. We cannot do this without first seeking the Lord to really understand the meaning of marriage, being a husband, honoring our wives, sacrificing our lives, and most importantly living out the powerful words of Ephesians 5:25-27, "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish."
"For consider your calling, brothers: not many of you were wise according to worldly standards, not many were powerful, not many were of noble birth. But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong; God chose what is low and despised in the world, even things that are not, to bring to nothing things that are, so that no human being might boast in the presence of God. And because of him you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us wisdom from God, righteousness and sanctification and redemption, so that, as it is written, “Let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 1:26-31 (ESV)
Learning to be a Mother and Father Figure!